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5 Strategies to Help You Forgive
Article by: KarmaVille Staff
April 01, 2013

5 Strategies to Help You Forgive

When someone wrongs you, it can be hard to let it go and move forward.  Forgiveness is a tough thing to accomplish for some people. 

For example, Sally cheated on George and she felt horrible about it.  She went to George and told him what she had done and swore it was a mistake and that it would never happen again.  After many fights and debating if they should stay together or move on, George told Sally he forgave her and would give their relationship another shot, the only thing is that deep down he was still mad and he resented her for it. 

Even though you tell someone you accept their apology, you may still be holding a grudge towards them.  Saying you forgive someone and actually forgiving someone are two different things.  If you want to truly forgive someone but you don’t know how, try these strategies from HuffingtonPost.com:

Think empathetically. Was the person who wronged you going through a hard time when they did it? Try to think about their situation and what they may have been going through. In addition to promoting forgiveness, empathy is also a hallmark of resilience. Empathetic people tend to be less selfish, having a genuine interest in the well-being of others.

Do a brain dump. Writing your thoughts and feelings about the event on a piece of paper will not only feel like a release, but it will also help you look at the situation from a different perspective. Ruminating about what happened won't help the wounds to heal.

Connect. Try reaching out to them to either talk on the phone, through email or even face to face. 

Stop gossiping. We you get in a fight with another person, it is easy to tell anyone who will listen to you about it.  That is not always the best idea; it can actually make the situation worse.

Get professional help if needed. Forgiving isn't easy, especially if the issue is ongoing or particularly traumatic. Working with a therapist or mental health professional can help you process your feelings and the overall experience at a deeper level.


Source: huffingtonpost.com

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Posted By: IMking | 4/02/13 1:45 PM
Brain dump lmao im sorry
Posted By: HazeMan22 | 4/03/13 3:45 PM
You never released a big old steaming dump from your brain?
Posted By: MartianMike | 4/02/13 2:17 PM
I think times heals everything and sometimes you forget why you are even mad at someone so its not worth the resentment
Posted By: cycomVP | 4/02/13 2:27 PM
I am good at holding a grudge
Posted By: sarasmiles99 | 4/02/13 2:45 PM
Forgiving is something that cannot be forced you have to feel it in your head and your heart
Posted By: keishabrown | 4/02/13 3:02 PM
To some girls saying stop gossiping is like saying stop breathing
Posted By: kindredspirit | 4/04/13 11:47 PM
I may forgive, but I will never forget...

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