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Some people can be with the same person for many years and never know that they are having an affair.If you find out that you have been cheated on dont look at it as only a negative thing.I know you will be upset but think of how worse it would be if you found out later.Would you want to dedicate years of your life to someone only to find out they are a liar and a cheater. the quicker you find out the better and dont blame yourself. Someone is out there that will love you for YOU. When you find them you will feel like the luckiest person alive.
There is someone for everyone that will love you unconditionally and you dererve that love.Someone who could love you no matter what comes your way will never cheat on you.Anyone who has cheated on you in the past doesnt deserve your heart anymore.
Lucky, relieved, freed, released are a couple more things you are to be out of a cheating relationship. Dont attack yourself and feel that you are naive or gullible either. Life has a lot of terrible tragedies in them including infidelity in marriages and nobody is exempt from this fate. I think by now we have all heard of every single scenario of cheaters. Presidents, Senators, Congressmen, Celebrities, Church officials, Role models and just about everyone else under the son. There is no rhyme or reason to why someone cheats specifically on you and so you shouldn't try to locate the problem. You are very lucky to have the ability to leave a relationship that wasnt honest and full of love. You are lucky to have hope of a wonderful future.
If you ever find out you are being cheated on then you are definately lucky.There are marriages that last a lifetime because the one of them is very sly about how they cheat and since they have been married for so long the spouse becomes a joke. People whisper behind their back at how clueless they are and how they are married to a deatbeat cheater. Think about if you made it 30 years into a marriage only to find out you have been married to an unfaithful partner this entire time. That kind of devistating news can destroy somoenes life and prevent them from ever trusting another person ever again.The pain you feel is temporary but knowing that you got away from a cheater sooner then later makes you very lucky.
To be away from someone who dedicates their life to deceiving you is more then lucky its a god send.If cheaters would put as much energy into their marriages and careers as they do for cheating that would all be PHD;s with the best marriage around. They conjure up ways of deception and figure out alibis so they never have to come clean.Just little childish cowards that have fooled you from the beginning so dont get confused if you feel you still love them. You dont even know them....
Most of these predators know that to sucessfully live their cheating lifestyle that they have to choose one victim to destroy as a person. This person is who they marry. They play the husband role only to become a sexual predator with a class act cover. On the surface they seem to be the ideal marriage material person you search for. That should tip you right off that most of the people who seem too good to be true usually are. They revolve the enitre identity around the way that they cheat. Unforunately the person who is fooled into marrying them has a very hard time bouncing back after being betrayed so viciously.
Noble wrote : > I would rather find out that I got cheated on the day it happens so I didnt > get played for a fool. Finding out that you have been cheated on for years > must really destroy your trust in a relationship.
I feel the same way. At least you dont have to think about all the times you were with them after they cheated on you and they were acting like everything was hunkie dorie. People are very twisted when they dont have any guilt or shame for treating someone who loves them like a object for their entertainment.
The amount of deception that comes from an affair is sometimes unforgivable and lucky is probably the last word that comes to your mind when you find out your lover has cheated on you. You might be asking why me or what did I do to deserve this. Good new is that it had nothing to do with you, bad news is there are more people like the person that cheated on you out there. Ready to spin you in a web of lies and catch you while you are in a vulnerable state looking for affection and warmth. You are better off healing on your own when you get out of a long term relationship or marriage because of infidelity. You are very lucky to be out of a bad relationship but you might have bad judgment if you get back into the dating pool to soon and run the risk of giving yourself more heartache when you havent fully healed.
You are lucky because you get to go find someone better. I know they will be better because there is someone out there that was betrayed just like you and looking to be loved again. You have a right to be loved when you have done nothing wrong. Its not your fault the person ended up being someone other than you thought they were. They will have to live with the failure of the marriage and you can find the person of your dreams who has been looking for you all of your life. Get back out there and give the love to someone else who deserves it too.