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Dont feel like crying is going to be a sign of weakness. You should cry because it is a part of the healing. Having a deep cry can actually help you move and let go of those emotions because your body is exhausted from being drained. Crying takes alot of energy out of you so most people who feel blue fall asleep frequently. Some peoples greiving process takes a little longer but crying should be involved because you feel hurt and sadness so crying is a perfectly normal reaction.
I have no problem with crying, I cry at commercials That must be a problem for macho men that can never cry because then it would make them a sissy. If something really bothers me I might cry a dozen times in one day thinking about it but that is how I deal with the problem. I always feel much better when I am through and I can say that I got over it in a healthy way and left it behind me.
NewAge wrote : > I have no problem with crying, I cry at commercials
Im such a sucker for the commercials that have a son and a dad together fishing or something. I am pretty damn macho but whenever something reminds me of my dad I always get a little teared up but crying isnt a bad thing.Ill be the first guy to admit that if I need to cry I will do it. I just dont do it in public
I grew up in a family that never thought crying was a bad thing. I was never told by my parents not to cry because they wanted me to express how I feel. I think it is very important in life to be in touch with your feelings. You cannot try to harness your feelings or you risk pent of frustration that is worse for you then actually speaking your peace. I saw both of my parents cry on the regular about both joyous occasions and sad ones. If you deal wihth the loss of a loved one or the heartache of a fallen relationship and you dont cry then it is not okay. You are supressing your feelings for some reason and going to therapy can help that. Crying should be thought of as a normal part of life that nobody enjoys doing but agree that it is a must for proper mental stability.
***EVERYONE****should cry every once in awhile.There is no shame in crying! That is an old boys thing and its too outdated so give it up already.Boys are not sissys if they cry because when you supress those feelings you alter your personality which takes years to figure out in therapy.Dont make a child feel inadequate if something reduces them to tears. Try to figure out what is hurting them and explain how they can deal with it so it doesnt shock them and hurt them so much that they do cry. Dont just attack them for crying. No man woman or child should ever be ridiculed for crying.
Actually the boys are supposed to learn not to show their emotions because they are considered the rock of the family. If the rock of the family starts to break down it will send the whole family into a tailspin. Men can cry when they are alone and something tragic has happened but thats it. Women should feel like they can cry whenever and its the mans job to comfort them. I would say the only time it can be swapped is when a man loses his mother or father. Everything else though he should not be crying in front of the family. A man should never cry over a relationship though that is just not right.
Thats such an archaic way of thinking Lennon. Women are not common housemaids anymore and they can do a whole lot for the modern family. I dont think the man would send his family into a panic if he cried in front of them. This misconception that the father is supposed to be some stone faced master keeps children from making a good connection with their father. If he is seen in the childs eyes as only the stong disciplinarian then the kids might shy away from opening up to him when something is wrong. If you want to be the protector and provider then show no emotions but if you want to make a connection with your family then show them you hurt and are capable of crying so they have understanding of who you are as an individual.
Lennon sounds like he was born in 1915 and still does what his grandparents told him was the right way to live. Its ok for anyone to cry and its that same wacky logic that holds true in the capital too. All of thes old timers that are out of touch with how society has changed and keep to the old ways no matter what happens outside of DC. We need more free thinkers that stay away from the status quo unlike Lennon's way of thinking. There is nothing wrong with a man crying and in fact woman actually like to know they have a man that is in touch with his feelings.
KatieBird wrote : > ***EVERYONE****should cry every once in awhile.There is no shame in crying!
I 2nd this notion! More you keep it inside of you the more it will eat you up and mess with your well being.
If you are ashamed of letting someone see you cry then bring a radio into the bathroom when you are taking a shower and cry all you want and nobody will know. Holding it in all the time causes tension and stress which we all know is no fun.
Crying is the way you get over being devistated about a particular moment in time. To hold that feeling in will quite likely hurt your health. I know after a really long cry I can sleep for hours because when I cry it like a whole body weep. When I went through my divorce I laid in bed for 8 days and didnt leave my house for a good 2 weeks. Luckily my family would come check on me and help with my work around the house but that cry was deep and heavy. After I finished I felt like a changed person and I was over that part of my life. Crying is definately something your mind,body and soul needs to carry on with a positive outlook on life.