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I was very naive in my way of thinking and didnt ask all the questions that were on my mind. I supressed all of my needs because I didnt want to scare them away which got me nowhere but allowing someone to walk all over me like a rug. I think when I am trying to wrangle in someone I dont want to become a burden so I let a lot slide that I am personally against. I dont believe it is wise to go to places for singles to meet when you are currently in a relationship. I let that happen to often and it ended up biting me in the rear.
How can I avoid another cheater....I guess just standing up for what I truly believe is right for me and if they don't agree then let them walk. I will no longer sit by and wonder if they want love or just a fling. Those types of things will be put in the forefront of our relationship. I know that there is a guy out there for me that feels he is ready for a girl that wants to be serious for the long term.Im waiting for that price charming to sweep me off of my feet when I tell him all of my wants and needs. I might have to put a little more effort into finding someone like that but I am willing to make it happen vs. waiting for it to happen.
I changed my entire way of picking a man when I got cheated on the first time. I used to only go for looks first and try to turn them into the person that I wanted them to be. They would act like everything was ok but be who they really were behind my back. After I found out my boyfriend cheated on me I decided to go after certain types of guys instead of just the looks. They had to meet a certain standard for wanting to be a family guy and he had to be educated. So far it has worked because I have been together with my current boyfriend for 2 years and we have been talking about getting married. I think I finally found the one
I did not make a mistake finding my husband he is my prince charming but I do feel like my sister needs my help. She has gone through too many bad relationships to count and she always seems to pick the wrong guy. She changes her mind about what she wants and ignores the fundamental things that a good man should have. She is always worried about the material things and not caring about whats inside. I think I should help hook her up with someone but she gets all weird when I try to set her up and says she can find men on her own but the problem is they are never good! I think I should just not tell her and force her into something because I know it will best for her in the long term.
@holyguac I think it would be nice of you to help your sister out but what if she doesnt accept your help. You cant force her to go on a date with someone she isnt interested in. Maybe start taking her places where good guys hang out like church or college or library anything but a bar or a club where most guys have their acting faces on to trick women into falling in love with them. Most girls pick the guy right but he was lying about who he was so its not you its the places you are finding them.
I plan on staying away from the losers that I have dated in the past. If the guy openly admits that he drinks or does drugs for fun thats a no brainer. I tired of dating the guy that blames his problems on his vices but has no plans to give them up. I would stay away from anyone who has been married before. Most of those guys are complete losers and thats why they are already divorced before 30. I also plan on staying away from any man that is still living with his parents UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. If I follow my rules im sure I will have a better chance to stay away from the moronic cheaters I have already experienced in my short life.
I finally am starting to look for qualities in a person that I want to marry. I stopped the dating anyone because they are cute or have a good job and now I am only dating for whats inside. I plan on realy finding a connection with someone and finding the intense passin that it takes to keep a locing relationship for life.
badly wrote : > I finally am starting to look for qualities in a person that I want to > marry. I stopped the dating anyone because they are cute or have a good job > and now I am only dating for whats inside. I plan on realy finding a > connection with someone and finding the intense passin that it takes to > keep a locing relationship for life.
This is the best time in life to date because you know what you are looking for and when you find it its like the biggest relief and joy moment. Good Luck!